Friday, April 16, 2010

Can I Win My Ex Love Back? - I'm Devastated

 Breakups are not the absolute end                                               this lens's photo

A breakup is a devastating event which can leave you emotionally wounded. You know that things can be made to work and you are now trying to figure out "how to get back my ex?" Breakups are not irreparable events which are the absolute end of things. There are things that you can learn and use to try an get your ex back, but it will take work and time.

Let go of all of the pain                                                                

First, you have to let go of all of the pain and move on. This is a difficult step, but you should instead try and think about the fact that letting go will bring them closer to you. This is not to say that you should shut everything out. You need to experience these feelings in order to move on, but you cannot spend too much time on them, otherwise you will hinder your own progress. Tell yourself that moving on is how to get my love back and it will be easier to do so.

Figure out why it happened

Once you have left the feelings behind you, you should figure out why it happened.
What you should be thinking is that getting back my love involves knowing why we broke up. If there is a problem behind the breakup, then knowing of it will lead to fixing it. Once that happens, you can get them one step closer to being back with you.

Take a break

An important step in the healing process is to extend each other a break. Separation is required in order to get back to a point where the two of you can move on and do what is needed to set things right. Those who spend time with no contact with each other are most likely to get past the breakup and get back together.

You should also spend the time to call upon the support of those around you. Ask others what they think in terms of "how to get back my ex?" This can include your parents, siblings, friends and more. Not only can these individuals provide support for you as you experience the emotional turmoil of a break up, but they can also act as your calm head, your sensibility, and they can mediate things between you and your ex.

The final step

Once you each have your support networks, you should come back together.
A meet up is the final step in the process of getting back together. You should proceed slowly, first by emails and text messages. Keep your tone friendly, for any sign of moving forward too quickly can be detrimental.

If you would like some more great information on how to win your ex love back.....
I have a friend named T. W. Jackson. T Dub authored a simple, down to earth step by step guide called The Magic Of Making Up.  Take a look I think you'll like it.